Integrity is something we have to fight for and choose daily. This is because we continuously face pressures that are trying to force us to compromise our integrity. If we are not diligent, the weight of those pressures will drive us to make excuses to justify poor choices. The unfortunate reality is that whatever we compromise to get, we will have to continue to compromise to keep. The good news is we have the power to choose integrity in every situation. When we purposefully choose to operate in integrity, everything gained will be enjoyed with a clear conscience.
Never let someone get you off your game. There will be people who feel like they can speak things into your life, and say things about you that you know to your core are not true. They will try to define you through the lenses of their own distorted perspectives, and try to make you agree with what they see when looking at you. If you know yourself – truly know yourself, then reject those false images. Reject those definitions that go directly against who you are as a person. Recently, I had someone very close to me say to me that I was argumentative and difficult to get along with. However, the reality was they just could not accept what I was saying to them. It had nothing to do with me and everything to do with how they saw themselves in relation to me. We cannot control how others see us. We can, and should, do our best to put our best foot forward and do what we know is right. However, never let anyone push you down in the mud, redefine your character and make you feel like you are not the person you thought you were. Reject those sneaky innuendos and low-key slights. Be confident in who you are and keep moving forward.
Drama! Whew, the word alone stirs up memories of several dramatic moments I could have done without. At one point in my life, there was so much drama going on that I didn’t know if I was going or coming. I couldn’t sleep, was eating all of my emotions, piling on weight and worried constantly. It was like I was living in a whirlwind day and night. The worst part was I was only 21 years old! But the way I was dragging around you would have thought I was 65. I remember distinctly saying at the beginning of the New Year that I was going to be ‘drama free’. I’d had enough and was willing to do whatever it took to have peace. That was my turning point.