Discard The Riffraff And Choose The Best

Lately I have been hearing more and more about relationship disappointments and the struggles of single women who desire marriage. My heart has great love for these women because I was once in the same situation and desired nothing more than a loving, honorable, Godly husband to be with me and my daughter. I would dream of the day that we were all in our home together and I had that strong man to lean on, support me, encourage me, love me or just sit in the living room folding clothes while watching Family Feud (yes, we do this!). So yes, I understand the struggle, but I also know that there is way to have what you want.

A common theme in the stories I hear mostly revolve around women getting involved with men that they should have avoided in the first place. It is true that you cannot do the wrong thing well enough to succeed. That does apply to relationships. Recognize this as truth – please. If you are continually experiencing disappointment in relationships because men will not commit, do not have life goals that you are comfortable partnering with, or are just simply on a different course than you, then the issue is the selection process. Own that. Yes, own it. I know, its not easy or pretty to own, but it’s the first step to making better decisions going forward. (more…)

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Dear Ashton – Husband’s “Money Matters” Are Hurting Our Marriage

Dear Ashton: I am in my second marriage, and we have been married for less than 3 years. My husband and I divide all of the household responsibilities and expenses. We have separate bank accounts and we each pay our bills from our own accounts. I have a budget for how much I spend on bills monthly, and I try to stick to it closely. Lately, I feel like my husband is taking advantage of me because he uses up the household items I purchase and does not replace them. He does not even think about my budget and the added expense his actions cost me because I’m the one who has to go buy more. I don’t think it is fair that I have to continue to replace items that he uses freely without considering how it affects me. I do the things I am supposed to do, and he should do the same. Why doesn’t he just replace the items he’s used instead of waiting for me to do it? This is happening every month. I am frustrated, but I have not said anything to him about it. But I know he can tell something is not right and it’s hurting our relationship. Am I wrong for thinking this way???

— #MoneyMatters

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