Drama! Whew, the word alone stirs up memories of several dramatic moments I could have done without. At one point in my life, there was so much drama going on that I didn’t know if I was going or coming. I couldn’t sleep, was eating all of my emotions, piling on weight and worried constantly. It was like I was living in a whirlwind day and night. The worst part was I was only 21 years old! But the way I was dragging around you would have thought I was 65. I remember distinctly saying at the beginning of the New Year that I was going to be ‘drama free’. I’d had enough and was willing to do whatever it took to have peace. That was my turning point.
Deciding who to marry is one of the most important decisions a woman will ever make in her life. Taking the time to think about what is desired in a marriage, and knowing the qualities in a mate that would enhance your life is well worth the effort. First, it makes you more focused in the selection process so you can identify what you want. Second, it keeps you from pursuing relationships with individuals who do not meet your qualifications. Knowing what you want (and do not want) beforehand helps to avoid making poor, emotionally driven decisions. Let’s be honest. Irrational emotional decisions lead to most of the relationship disasters we experience. Too many women blindly run into relationships with men only to find out too late that they are completely incompatible. Women can set themselves up for success and stop wasting precious time by working smarter, not harder.
So women, what should we be looking for? What criteria should we use when evaluating a potential suitor who just may become a mate? There are core essentials that every woman should look for because they are the foundation of any successful relationship. The criteria listed below is not for the casual dater or faint at heart. This list is for women who are seriously ready for marriage and want to ensure they are making the wisest decisions possible.
Last week I heard on the radio that our cars have arrows beside the gas symbol on our dashboards to show us which side has the gas tank. I thought to myself, ‘Well, that knowledge would have prevented several irritating episodes at the pump!”. I’m sure it’s happened to us all at some point, right? We find out that tricky situations could have been avoided with a little extra knowledge. That’s where I got the idea for this blog post.
I’ve talked to a lot of married women over the years and believe it or not, most of the challenges we all face are the same. How well we overcome those challenges and build strong marriages is another story. So, today I’m going to share 7 things we should all know about marriage to make our lives better.
At some point in our lives we have to realize that the majority our experiences are the result of our own actions and choices. Re-occurring patterns, both good and bad, are not coincidences. Unfortunately, we use excuses to explain why some negative scenarios keep happening over and over instead of digging deeper to find out why. We are not powerless victims of circumstance and it is irresponsible to use that excuse. Also, as long as we are pointing the finger at others we will not recognize how our own actions contribute to the challenges we face. We will not change our actions until we make the connection between actions and experiences. (more…)