Dear Ashton: As a parent when do you decide that you’ll let your kids “quit” something? Something you know they’ll succeed in and love, but have to learn to deal with the initial pains of adversity or discomfort? How do you determine that something just isn’t for them, or that they need mental toughness and need to stick with it? My son started a new activity today and was excited to do it. But once he saw a certain kid was also involved, he says he lost interest and no longer wanted to do it. How do you determine the difference and when to really let them “quit” something? Is there ever a right time to let a child “quit”? Thanks!
– To Quit Or Not To Quit
Dear Ashton: This morning I’ve been thinking about a new friend that I’ve made over the few months. She’s fun, successful in her career, giving, very nice and in my age group. BUT she will have affair with married men; this part does bother me since my ex cheated on me. So my question is should this be a deal breaker for a friendship or not?
– Newfound Friend
Dear Ashton: I recently heard a radio program that was talking about how men and women evaluate differently partners for dating and marriage. They said men’s criteria looks like this:
Dating Guys Wanna Know:
1)Is she FUN to be with–low hassle factor?
2) Is she attractive physically?
3) And for non-religiously convicted men, is she down with casual sex? (more…)
Dear Ashton: I am in my second marriage, and we have been married for less than 3 years. My husband and I divide all of the household responsibilities and expenses. We have separate bank accounts and we each pay our bills from our own accounts. I have a budget for how much I spend on bills monthly, and I try to stick to it closely. Lately, I feel like my husband is taking advantage of me because he uses up the household items I purchase and does not replace them. He does not even think about my budget and the added expense his actions cost me because I’m the one who has to go buy more. I don’t think it is fair that I have to continue to replace items that he uses freely without considering how it affects me. I do the things I am supposed to do, and he should do the same. Why doesn’t he just replace the items he’s used instead of waiting for me to do it? This is happening every month. I am frustrated, but I have not said anything to him about it. But I know he can tell something is not right and it’s hurting our relationship. Am I wrong for thinking this way???