Dear Ashton: This morning I’ve been thinking about a new friend that I’ve made over the few months. She’s fun, successful in her career, giving, very nice and in my age group. BUT she will have affair with married men; this part does bother me since my ex cheated on me. So my question is should this be a deal breaker for a friendship or not?
– Newfound Friend
At some point in our lives we have to realize that the majority our experiences are the result of our own actions and choices. Re-occurring patterns, both good and bad, are not coincidences. Unfortunately, we use excuses to explain why some negative scenarios keep happening over and over instead of digging deeper to find out why. We are not powerless victims of circumstance and it is irresponsible to use that excuse. Also, as long as we are pointing the finger at others we will not recognize how our own actions contribute to the challenges we face. We will not change our actions until we make the connection between actions and experiences. (more…)
Dreams inspire faith because they produce hope. Dreams birth vision and purpose that drives us to strive for success because we are excited and motivated by the desire to see our dreams manifested in our lives. However, not everyone can see what we see and they may not understand or even like our dreams. (more…)
Lately I have been hearing more and more about relationship disappointments and the struggles of single women who desire marriage. My heart has great love for these women because I was once in the same situation and desired nothing more than a loving, honorable, Godly husband to be with me and my daughter. I would dream of the day that we were all in our home together and I had that strong man to lean on, support me, encourage me, love me or just sit in the living room folding clothes while watching Family Feud (yes, we do this!). So yes, I understand the struggle, but I also know that there is way to have what you want.
A common theme in the stories I hear mostly revolve around women getting involved with men that they should have avoided in the first place. It is true that you cannot do the wrong thing well enough to succeed. That does apply to relationships. Recognize this as truth – please. If you are continually experiencing disappointment in relationships because men will not commit, do not have life goals that you are comfortable partnering with, or are just simply on a different course than you, then the issue is the selection process. Own that. Yes, own it. I know, its not easy or pretty to own, but it’s the first step to making better decisions going forward. (more…)