We were so blessed to spend the weekend with family and friends celebrating birthdays and Father’s Day. It was absolutely amazing to get together and laugh loudly about nothing, take funny pictures, and catch up with everyone. Honestly, its something that we just don’t do enough. Too often, the busy-ness of life pushes out the most important things to make room for the urgent things. We begin putting off those family dinners and trips to the lake until ‘later’. Unfortunately, many times ‘later’ becomes ‘never’ and we fall into the habit of prioritizing the wrong things. In the long run, we could end up with regret because of the moments lost with those precious people closest to us. Let’s re-focus, re-prioritize, and re-commit to making time for our families, spouses, friends. Plan that vacation that’s been put off for years. Make time today to call a parent, read with a child, catch up with a friend or have dinner alone with your spouse. Building loving relationships is the most important thing we can ever do to improve our lives and the lives of those dearest to us. The email can wait until tomorrow.
Dear Ashton: As a Christian, it is easy for me to put God first in my life, but after first place I struggle with second and third places… my spouse and my kids. My husband puts me before the kids, but I struggle with putting him before our kids. How do I keep the right order i.e. 1st – God, 2nd – Spouse, 3rd – kids?
— Mrs. Family Order
My nine year old son recently told me that he was ‘trustable.’ I chuckled when he said it because, honestly, I did not think it was a real word. To my surprise, it was real!
Here’s a little back-story… we were having a conversation and he felt like I didn’t trust him to take care of his headphones. He was right, because his track record for breaking them was strong. However, when he said that to me with sincerity, I stopped and realized I was conveying the wrong message to him. I was trying to make him behave more ‘trustable,’ but was actually making him feel less ‘trustable.’ I was making my negative expectations clear – I expected him to break the headphones. That is the opposite of what I wanted. I wanted him to take care of them. How had the lines of communication gotten so twisted? Easy – and it was my fault! (more…)